A Script For Making Plans With New Friends
Being stood up by a friend, expanding your social network, and accepting the long game of making friends at any age.
Dear Nina,
I work at home alone, but lately, especially after learning how vital it is to mental health and successful aging (I'm 63), I've become vigilant about reuniting with people I consider old friends.
Today I had scheduled a coffee date with an old friend. We have been in touch. For example, she reached out for help on something and thanked me profusely—so we have a relationship. But she forgot to come.
When I texted, she said she was going through a hard time. I feel for her, but I'm not especially interested in making another attempt. Funnily, when I originally suggested that we get together, she texted back with a time and place. Some of the other women I've tried—mostly people from the past I have hopes of growing closer to—get very vague and nothing happens, but she was so on point and then she stood me up.
Any thought on this, or on how to jazz up my friendship life?
Thanks, “Liza”
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