Yes, Check On Your Friends During a Crisis
Plus: scheduling as the key to making and keeping friends
The latest episode of Dear Nina: Conversations About Friendship focuses on reaching out amidst turmoil (this time in particular, in the Middle East), navigating conversations when you’re not sure what to say, and the profound impact of letting someone know you’re thinking of them.
I tried to fit a lot into 18 minutes. If you want to know how I’m feeling right now, it’s in the episode.
Questions I discussed include:
Can a simple message of love and support make a difference to a friend during a crisis?
Is it fair to expect friends to post on social media?
At what point do you let friends know you’re disappointment they didn’t reach out?
How do you handle it when you see friends publicly post their anger about others’ silence and you suspect they might be referring to you?
What might keep people from reaching out personally or expressing their opinions publicly?
🎧 Listen to episode 76 anywhere you get your podcasts!
Past episodes mentioned in ep 76:
“The Friend Who Never Initiates Contact”
“The Friend Who Ignores Your Social Media Posts”
Scheduling as the Key to Making and KEEPING Friends
If you’re struggling with managing your friendships or looking for innovative ways to make new friends, this episode is your roadmap to a richer, more fulfilling social life. What you might be missing if you’re not spending time with friends is a container for those friendships. My guests have tons of ideas for you!
Jeff Waldman and Dan Moore joined me for an inspiring thirty minutes where we discussed creating closer friendships by scheduling time with friends. Yes, something as mundane as scheduling in the magic here. We also got into more specific ideas like organizing workshops or trips, putting standing dates on your calendar for phone calls, dinners, fitness check-ins, games, workshops, retreats, and more.
We discussed saying yes sometimes, even when you feel like staying home, and the benefit of being the host of events instead of the guest.
🎧 Listen to episode 75 anywhere you get your podcasts!
Resources mentioned in episode 75:
Two of Jeff’s Substack posts about friendship: “Who are all these friends— Scheduled phone calls edition” and “What’s Up With All These Workshops”
Episode #70: Become Your Own Social Director
The Odd Fellows, recommended by Dan
“Being There” by David French in the NYT. Relates to episode 76 too!
TV Shows I’m Watching and Books I’m Reading
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