I'll be listening to this episode for sure, Nina. Sometimes I'll complain to my husband that a friend (or family member!) never asks what's going on with me. He says, "just tell them." My take is that I don't have a need to tell them what's going on, I have a need for them to be interested enough to ask.
I'm in the "just tell them" camp too as you will hear in the episode. BUT, only to a point. And if you start telling them and they still don't listen, it's time for a direct chat about it or a lot less time together.
You obviously hit a nerve with the self-obsessed friend question. It reminds me of Bette Midler’s quote in Beaches: Enough about me. What do you think about me?” — Bette Midler
I'll be listening to this episode for sure, Nina. Sometimes I'll complain to my husband that a friend (or family member!) never asks what's going on with me. He says, "just tell them." My take is that I don't have a need to tell them what's going on, I have a need for them to be interested enough to ask.
I'm in the "just tell them" camp too as you will hear in the episode. BUT, only to a point. And if you start telling them and they still don't listen, it's time for a direct chat about it or a lot less time together.
You obviously hit a nerve with the self-obsessed friend question. It reminds me of Bette Midler’s quote in Beaches: Enough about me. What do you think about me?” — Bette Midler
Perfect quote!!! Gosh, I love that movie. And yeah, this one really did hit a nerve. WOW.