Fantastic piece. My friends never seemed to have graduated from the days of sending texts like “who’s down to grab a drink tonight?”, back when all of us weren’t either married/raising a family, or just generally less “busy” and time felt abundant. This reminds me to be the change you want to see.
100% Emma! It reminds me of Cal Newport's advice in Deep Work to 'write longer emails.' He means that if we take the time to do a little lifting for one email, we can avoid a banter of 7 more emails before settling on a plan. His advice is intended for a work context, but I think it works for personal plans, too. Like Nina, I am not the best at "sitting on my hands" while waiting for someone else to pull out the calendar or make a reservation (even when it's not needed, it elevates a lunch date for me).
Fantastic piece. My friends never seemed to have graduated from the days of sending texts like “who’s down to grab a drink tonight?”, back when all of us weren’t either married/raising a family, or just generally less “busy” and time felt abundant. This reminds me to be the change you want to see.
Thank you! And I love that expression "time felt abundant." It certainly did back in the day.
I always appreciate when friends do the heavy lift of suggesting dates/times to meet. It is a gift to the other person.
100% Emma! It reminds me of Cal Newport's advice in Deep Work to 'write longer emails.' He means that if we take the time to do a little lifting for one email, we can avoid a banter of 7 more emails before settling on a plan. His advice is intended for a work context, but I think it works for personal plans, too. Like Nina, I am not the best at "sitting on my hands" while waiting for someone else to pull out the calendar or make a reservation (even when it's not needed, it elevates a lunch date for me).
https://calnewport.com/write-longer-emails/
Happy to see this topic, Nina!
Great point from you (and Cal)! Thanks so much for sharing there link here.
Yes! This is great.
YES such a gift. I'm willing to give that gift a lot, but not *every* time. Not that you're saying that. I'm just expressing myself. :)
Definitely looking forward to listening to that solo ep! Am currently listening to Ina Garten's memoir, per your recommendation- I'm liking it a lot!
Oh good! Debra and I just did our second Ina event today. Was a great discussion (and such a fun cooking experience.)